a tough love letter

A glimpse at what I do for my distance clients who needed some tough love... wrote this last night after a couple of drinks, I cleaned it up a bit.

"If you don’t like tracking your intake or will only “try” to do your best, it’s not likely you’d succeed since you’re already going into this thinking you might fail. You perceive this as a chore instead of being excited because YOU want to be absolutely sure you’re not eating over your maintenance.

A better self-dialogue should be, “I want to because it is the best way to get to the bottom of this whole fat loss business for the last god damn time!”

If stress is the issue for your weight re-gain, maybe you're the type that seek food for comfort. try take up other leisure activities instead of food to make you feel better. get a pet, clean the house, go swing dancing, or jump in the river.

I want you to detach yourself from the comfort of consuming food and only see them as fuel (for now), you can enjoy the festivity with your friends/coworkers later.

For example, if you know how many calories there are in certain foods you tend to eat when stressed out, remember how many calories are in it and how many calories are in 1 pound of body fat (3,500lcal btw), just by knowing these numbers will help see 'food' more objectively instead of emotionally.  

This means, next time you’re about to eat something you know you shouldn’t, tell yourself this. “if I put this 1,200kcal milk shake down my mouth, I am basically telling my body to stop burning my own body fat for the next 10-12hrs and instead, metabolizing the food." 

Is that what you want?  Is it worth it?

we are just mass. If you want to lose mass off your thigh, your chin, your ass, by the law of thermodynamic, you have to take in less and release the energy/mass into the world as heat. Luckily we burn energy all the time, this means you don’t need to do anything to lose weight. not doing anything includes not eating (or not eating as much), that's the catch.

If you have a low calorie allowance, then eat foods that satiate you more. protein and fiber, duh. and if you get hungry, be hungry, it’s nothing personal, it’s part of human evolution. Trust me, you’re far from becoming anorexic.

So be hungry, it’s ok. you're on this planet because your ancestors starved through many years of famine, you have the genetic composition to do the same.

Look at your body and see how much reserved energy you have, you don’t need to eat. Even if you’re hungry, you can tolerate the first wave of hunger just fine, just drink some water, eat a grapefruit, and get on with your day.

Be hungry until you're lean and happy. You want 10mins of gratification eating that cupcake? or a lifetime of satisfaction showing off your hot bod at your girlfriends pool party? choice is yours, get your head straight.

there are tons of ppl who lost weight doing it alone, you don't need accountability. why do you need online high fives from me every week? seriously.  If losing weight and restoring your health is something you really REALLY REALLY REALLY want, just like anything tough in life (raising your kids, getting your dream job, becoming a homeowner), you have to prioritize your goals. get desperate and hungry for it. 

Be responsible for your own body because nobody else cares about you more than yourself.  No, i don't care if your girlfriends keep asking you out to happy hour, you can say no.  I don't care if your kids wants to eat pasta, nobody force you to eat what your kids wants to eat.  I don't care if your wrist hurts from work, you can still do lunges.  I don't care if you don't have money to join a gym, you can quit eating out every other night and cook at home and save that money.  No time?  the time you spend reading people's fcaebook newsfeed every morning you could have done 20 push ups.

Stop it with your lame ass excuses.  Stop blaming others for your own actions/laziness, nobody cares about how much fat is on your body as much as you do.  So move yourself because nobody else will.